The Disease of Domestic Violence = Gaslighting + Codependency + Abusive Behavioral Pattern. Codependency is an ADDICTION to the NEED to be NEEDED. Codependency means you’re dependent on others-often family members or an intimate partner-to make you feel worthwhile.
Codependency is rooted in CHILDHOOD.Codependent submissive: equates love with over-caring, tend to avoid conflict
Codependent dominant: equates love with power and the ability to control.
The codependent submissive and dominant can switch roles from time to time in the relationship. (Karpman Drama Triangle)
Because helping and sacrificing are socially acceptable, codependents will MISAPPROPRIATE help (usually food or money) and ignore how dysfunctional the relationship is. Codependency means asking a question a third or fourth time when the answer was already no the first two times.
Codependent parenting affects a child’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship as an adult. In codependency, the dysfunctional behavioral patterns come BEFORE the codependent submissive turns to drug or alcohol abuse. Codependency is an unhealthy focus on other people’s problems, feelings, and needs.
Codependency and gaslighting are considered abnormal behavioral patterns-they are not an addiction or a disease like domestic violence. As such, they can be overcome with therapy and a willingness to change.
GASLIGHTING, in the context of CODEPENDENCY, is psychological conditioning aimed at intentionally trying to make another person THINK their feelings are INAPPROPRIATE in relation the situation, when in reality they are not. Gaslighting is a method of manipulation to gain control over another individual.
The manipulators of reality will exert control over another by using emotional, social, environmental and physical tactics for self-serving goals and desires. The gaslighter will psychologically condition the submissive to question their perception of reality to such a degree that the submissive will start to beleive he/she is crazy.
The combination of GASLIGHTING and CODEPENDENCY are seen in the Disease of Domestic Violence and the Disease of Divorce
After adapting to codependency and gaslighting for a significant period of time, it turns into a disease. But if the manipulative psychological patterns are recognized early, they can be overcome with therapy and a willingness to change.
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